About OCS Counselling
It is our belief that we can all positively enhance our lives and that we already possess the wisdom and ability to do so. We aim to help you discover it! OCS facilitates this process through Counselling and Psychotherapy. You will receive supportive listening and fresh insight. We will assist you to learn new skills that are designed to help you understand and manage your feelings more effectively so that you can make better decisions about your life.
Our Online and Telephone Counselling Service will support you to develop Emotional Intelligence, which is the ability to skillfully manage your feelings to create a more fulfilling life.
What does individual Counselling involve?
Counselling involves communicating with a suitably trained Counsellor, in a safe and confidential atmosphere. Your OCS Counsellor’s role is to support and enable you to explore and express your thoughts, feelings and experiences so that you can develop and make positive changes in your life.
While the overall goal of Counselling Therapy is very vague, 'I want to be happier,' your Counsellor can help you to break down your goal into smaller, achievable goals. When you start Therapy, your Counsellor will be able to help you clarify what is not working in your life. You will then be able to increase your clarity about:
• The scope and impact of your problem
• Your beliefs about the problem
• The kind of changes you want to make
• The kind of life you want to build
• The kind of person you aspire to be to build the kind of life you want
• Your blocks to becoming the kind of person you aspire to be
• The skills and knowledge necessary to achieve your goals.
Counselling may include:
• Learning to feel your feelings.
• Having a safe, non-judgmental space.
• Celebrating wins and good news.
• Attending to the sensations in your body.
• Processing grief and trauma.
• Venting, sharing and sitting in feelings.
• Remembering that joy can exist amidst pain.
• Being validated, heard and seen.
• Gaining a new perspective.
• Feeling your insight grow.
• Obtaining new skills and tools for coping.
Is it normal for Counselling to feel uncomfortable at times?
In therapy, you will take risks and try novel ways of thinking and behaving. It’s crucial to choose a Counsellor that you can trust so that if any temporary discomfort strikes, you feel safe enough to let down your walls and examine the cause. Though it can be a briefly painful time, discomfort is revealing and useful. Often it signals a problem area for you and exploring it with your Counsellor can be a catalyst for profound change.
The Counselling relationship provides a secure, non-judgmental and supportive environment for you to express your thoughts, feelings and frustrations. Counselling can feel uncomfortable at times because it involves change, it’s part of the growth process and like most change, it takes place outside of our comfort zone.
Being in Therapy is empowering although, for some, it can be tough at times. Expect to leave some sessions feeling elated and clear on so many things. On other occasions, you may be in reflective mode, feel annoyed at yourself, uncomfortable recalling your past, feel worried talking about your current situation or be concerned about your future. You might even temporarily be annoyed at your Therapist. This doesn't mean Counselling isn't working, it’s part of any transformational process. Remember you are being honest and transparent, we may not always like what we recall, learn or discover about ourselves.
Discomfort doesn't tend to last, there are many benefits of having Counselling
You may be nervous because you're new to counselling, perhaps you're sharing something sensitive or you're not used to expressing your emotions. Most clients feel relief after opening up. For many, being uncomfortable does not last. People get used to the setup and before you know it, they look forward to their therapy sessions as they have so much to share, vent, ask and want to work on. They see the progress and want to delve deeper. It's not often that we have time to talk to someone and offload with the focus being on ourselves and nothing else. It is something we can all benefit from.
In Therapy, we have the power to change how the story of our life continues. The key is to communicate, be fully involved and trust the process...things tend to really improve. You get to have a healthy bond with a caring and compassionate Counsellor who is rooting for you. That trusting relationship is also helpful to those who have not had healthy attachments. Therapists can assist you to become emotionally and mentally healthier. Counselling is effective and millions of people's lives have changed for the better because of it.
Therapy is empowering because you can:
• Be honest, be heard, seen and believed.
• Get another perspective.
• Have the focus on you.
• Be supported and encouraged.
• Review life events and traumas so you can heal.
• Stop reacting from old wounds and begin to respond from a place of awareness.
• Consciously choose different ways of being in the world that reflect your values.
• Allow someone neutral to really see and accept you.
• Unleash your pain.
• Talk about any issue, concern, thought, feeling or fear.
• Heal, stretch and grow.
• Learn to be compassionate with yourself.
• Enhance yourself, your life and your relationships.
• Have a support system, someone who truly wishes you well is committed to helping you feel better and do better.
During the Counselling Process try to:
• Give your Counsellor access to the real you. This means being totally honest and vulnerable.
• Take down the barriers you have built to protect yourself. Only when you remove them can you fully reveal your true thoughts and feelings. As a result, you will receive honest, useful feedback.
• Give your Counsellor feedback. Tell him/her your experience about what you found helpful/unhelpful at the end of the session. Providing this feedback enables your Counsellor to better meet your needs.
• Periodically ask your Counsellor to assess your progress with you (if your treatment is long term).
• You can maximise the benefit you get from your therapy by devoting time to your growth between sessions, as well.
While having a good Counsellor is important, what you actually do with your Counsellor is just as important. Therapy is not passive. It requires your active participation, motivation and commitment. Clients who work hard at helping themselves are more likely to have successful therapy outcomes
Before every session try to:
• Reflect on your goals for being in therapy
• Think about the next step you want to take to get closer to reaching your goal.
To create the life you really want, you will have to prioritise your therapy and your growth. This process is different for each person but it may mean spending some of your free time differently, tolerating temporary emotional discomfort in the name of lasting change, and being open to change
Be open to change
You are entering Counselling for support and guidance as you make changes in your life. Since how you have been living (thinking, behaving, etc.) is no longer working for you, it is time to take your life off of autopilot and try something new. If you are with a Counsellor you trust, take the risk, you have nothing to lose and so much to gain!